top of page

Quit Wrestling and Start Dancing


Compare wrestling and dancing.


Both require energy. Both typically involve two people in close contact.


Wrestling with someone wears you out. It is filled with struggle, resistance, and dominance. It is sometimes violent and requires aggressive movements designed to bring the competitor into submission. It is a win-lose sport. For one to win, he must defeat the other.


Dancing on the other hand is energizing and fun. As one person leads another, together they produce a beautiful expression of grace and cooperation. Music is involved. There is a mutual submission and cooperation with a goal of communicating affection, friendship, and beauty. The goal is to lead and follow and flow. In a great dance, both partners win! The question (great coaches ask great questions) is this: Are you dancing or wrestling with your business partners, managers and employees? Are you trying to dominate, control and win, or are you leading them to create beautiful win-win outcomes? Is the culture violent, hurtful, and aggressive, or filled with enjoyment, fun, and cooperation?


Many leaders think that it is impossible to create a joyful, harmonious low-drama workplace. I show my clients how they can have a beautiful culture by learning how to manage “agreements”, not people.


First, you must establish a few non-negotiables (core values) for the organization, followed by written agreements for each position. These agreements define clear expectations and consequences. These core values and agreements become the “heavy” in the organization. This system provides freedom within a tight accountability to written agreements. Such clear boundaries create the context to dance and create.


If you are tired of wrestling and ready for some dance lessons, give me a call!

12 views0 comments

Upcoming Events

  • Living in Integrity
    Living in Integrity
    Wed, Feb 28
    Zoom Event
    Feb 28, 2024, 8:30 AM – 9:00 AM EST
    Zoom Event
    Feb 28, 2024, 8:30 AM – 9:00 AM EST
    Zoom Event
    Experience the inner peace of holistic choices.
  • Living in Respect
    Living in Respect
    Wed, Mar 27
    Online Zoom Event
    Mar 27, 2024, 8:30 AM – 9:00 AM EDT
    Online Zoom Event
    Mar 27, 2024, 8:30 AM – 9:00 AM EDT
    Online Zoom Event
    Learn to make the beautiful choice to respect everyone.
  • Living Optimistically
    Living Optimistically
    Wed, Apr 24
    On Line Zoom Event
    Apr 24, 2024, 8:30 AM – 9:00 AM EDT
    On Line Zoom Event
    Apr 24, 2024, 8:30 AM – 9:00 AM EDT
    On Line Zoom Event
    Learn the joy and blessing of living in hope.
  • Living Proactively
    Living Proactively
    Wed, May 29
    Online Zoom Event
    May 29, 2024, 8:30 AM – 9:00 AM EDT
    Online Zoom Event
    May 29, 2024, 8:30 AM – 9:00 AM EDT
    Online Zoom Event
    Learn the stability of owning your choices.
  • Living Principle Centered
    Living Principle Centered
    Wed, Jun 26
    Online Zoom Event
    Jun 26, 2024, 8:30 AM – 9:00 AM EDT
    Online Zoom Event
    Jun 26, 2024, 8:30 AM – 9:00 AM EDT
    Online Zoom Event
    Learn how to live with a grounded direction
bottom of page