How often have you said it about someone else? “I know they’ll never change!” How often have you said it about yourself? “I know I’ll never change!”
Sir Francis Bacon said, “If a man will begin with certainties, he shall end in doubts, but if he will be content to begin with doubts, he shall end in certainties.”
Can people change? They do. And sometimes for the better.
The message is simple. If you want to help someone change for the better, start by doubting your doubts about that person. What if you opened to the possibility that they might change and achieve far more than anyone might expect? What if you chose to doubt your doubts and conclusions, and just became curious?
How you perceive a person affects your influence in their lives. Who would you need to be to be the best influence in their lives? How might the situation be affected if you chose to be more accepting of them, let go of your negative expectations, and embraced the possibility that they might step up and change?
When you conclude that someone will never get better, your positive influence ends. However, if you will drop your judgment and be open to possibilities, you create an opportunity to help someone improve.
Has anyone ever believed in you? How did that affect you? Effective leaders look for potential in others that most people miss.
My challenge is for you to be bold and take the risk of believing that others can change for the better. If you will step up, you might just inspire someone to become better.